An amazing resource I have been sharing with clients recently is a book by Dr. Kristin Neff called Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. Dr. Neff is a faculty member and researcher at The University of Texas at Austin. She studies how the relationship a person has with themselves affects how well they function in life. She is considered to be the world’s leading authority on self-compassion.
People mistakenly belief that being “tough” on themselves is what makes them successful. Research on self-compassion reveals the exact opposite: People who maintain a compassionate stance with themselves tend to be much healthier and more productive than those who beat themselves up when they make a mistake or encounter hardship.
If you had a parent who used a harsh tone or criticism to “motivate” you, you may naturally struggle with constant self-judgment. Shifting into a kinder relationship with yourself is challenging, but such a vital part of moving toward greater health and happiness in life.
Please explore Dr. Neff’s website to learn more about self-compassion. You will find many free resources on the following site that may be of tremendous benefit to you: http://www.self-compassion.org/